What Is Pegging? 2

 Now that you are equipped, start slowly

The slower anal play, the better. "The anus is a group of muscles-it doesn't stretch or lubricate naturally like the vagina," Engel explained. She recommends using fingers and smaller anal toys to start anal games before hooking up. When you are alone, you may even want to do this to understand how it feels before trying it with a partner.

"Next time you are in the shower and feel relaxed, gently slide your lubricated fingers inside to get to know your sphincter muscles. They are ring-shaped oval structures that help maintain the shape of the canal," O'Reilly suggested . Note: You don’t have to go deep to find these muscles-you will feel the external sphincter, which you can contract and release at will (the way you can bend and relax the biceps) less than an inch outside the opening place.

"The internal sphincter is only a little deeper, but because this smooth muscle ring is controlled by the autonomic nervous system, which manages automatic body functions, such as heartbeat and perspiration, it stays in a contracted state," O'Reilly explained. "You can't fully control your internal sphincter, but just as you can slow down your heart rate through breathing and mindfulness, you can also help relax this sensitive muscle through relaxation and deep breathing."

O'Reilley added that for novices, a good practice is to learn to enjoy anal games (licking, sucking, massage, kissing, etc.) and promise not to penetrate in the first place to build trust and become familiar with new feelings. If you decide that it is the beginning and end of your anus, then there is absolutely no problem. There is no rule book!

Adventure in it：

When you are ready for an adventure (so to speak), the giver will enter the anal canal. "It's less than a few inches long and rich in highly sensitive nerve endings," O'Reilly explained. "This area is composed of soft tissue folds, has good expansion ability, and is sensitive to touch, pressure and temperature."

At any time, communication is essential—especially if hooking is a new exploration for one or both parties. "Just as other types of penetrative sex require constant communication, so does hooking," O'Reilly said. She suggests asking questions such as "How does that feel?" And "Does that feel good?" and check whether the speed, depth, and pressure are comfortable and enjoyable.

"If you are not familiar with the penetrating or penetrating partner, please consider letting the penetrating partner control the angle, depth, and speed," she added.

Anal insertion shouldn't hurt, so if there is any pain, please stop and regroup. If you are a receiver, Engle recommends taking deep breaths to relax the anal muscles-this will help you "release" to pick up the dildo.

"It is most important to proceed gradually in terms of speed, depth, and size of the inserted object," O'Reilley agreed. "Take time to deepen your breathing, start with a very small object, such as your little finger, and gradually increase in size. Sex is not a race to the finish line. Progressive experiments can bring exciting results."

At the same time, don't hang on your ass completely. When we are excited, nervous, or trying something for the first time, it is normal to focus on a single body part or sexual behavior, but you can increase your partner's (and your own) excitement by stimulating other areas, the same .

It is a good idea to postpone penetration until both parties are ready and excited, because arousal can help you relax and have a palliative effect on your body. "Before introducing new movements or exploring new areas of the body, use your usual techniques and body parts to excite yourself," O'Reilley said.

Take the hook to another level：

If you feel that you have mastered the basics of hooking and want to go further, then there is no limit. O'Reilley recommends trying different types of seat belts and trying different toys and postures.

In general, keep in mind that you don’t have to think of hooking as being fundamentally different from other types of sex. "Just as you use new props, poses, locations, lubricants, swear words, and quirky methods to add interest to your sex life, you can also add these elements to your hooking game," O'Reilly said.

Remember, as with all sexual acts, consent is the key. Therefore, if your partner refuses to nail and is not even willing to accept the possibility of anal insertion, then you need to be satisfied with it. As Engel said, a good sexual experience is based on pleasure, trust and communication.

Engle added that another important aspect of linkage is aftercare, because we find that our expected role in society has been subverted. "Although hooking is not shameful and everyone should enjoy it safely, but sometimes because of the negative sexual information that many of us face as we grow up, andgender norms that have pigeonholed us into brackets of what it means to be a'man' or a'woman'," she explains.

Aftercare comes in many forms—talking about the shared sexual experience, snuggling, enjoying a meal together, or spending time alone. "Talking about aftercare before you get to it can be helpful so that you understand your partner's desires and boundaries," O' Reilley says. "You can't make assumptions about what they want and you don't want to misinterpret their behavior based on your own expectations."